I haven’t been on a first date since my high school years. I got asked out on a lunch date with someone I like but don’t know well, and I am excited and nervous. Any tips for conversation topics?

College dating is different from high school—you are often more mature, have formed or mostly formed your personal identity, and are more independent. With this in mind, your date takes on a more “adult” setting; the conversation and your attitude should reflect this fact. Smile, be attentive, and be confident. There is a reason why they asked you out, so carry yourself with dignity; your body language should reflect your desire to learn more about your date. If you can’t get past the obvious, “what’s your major?” questioning, try asking about their hobbies. Do they play an instrument? If so, are they in a band? How long have they been playing? Let each question build off of the previous one; try to find something they seem to enjoy discussing and keep them talking. Family, sports, favorite activities, academic or career goals, and personal history are all good topics for in-depth conversation. “What’s the most adventurous thing you have ever done?” can lead to stories about traveling abroad or trying new foods. Ask about their favorite things; you may discover common interests. Remember to listen and focus on what they say. Good luck and have fun.

My boyfriend’s birthday is coming up and I don’t know what to give him. I want to give him something nice. Do you have any ideas?

How long have you been dating? This can helap dictate the sort of gift you may want to give. Personalized mix CDs, T-shirts, movies, and gift certificates to your favorite date spots are all safe ideas for young relationships. Your gift should have significance and simplicity—make the statements: “I know you,” “I want to know you more,” and “I want to spend time with you.” More serious relationships may warrant nicer gifts, but don’t go overboard. Sometimes the least costly thing can have the most meaning. Let your gift be something from your heart, not your wallet.